So you are somewhere, be it a coffeehouse or a bar or at the store or a sports match, and you notice someone. This person bears a faint resemblance to someone you might know, and eventually you do firmly pinpoint who this individual is. You’re merely an acquaintance. Not a good friend, but you would (and should) recognize each other on sight. This other person locks eyes briefly upon you, and you do the same with him/her. Off and on you sneak a peek and see if s/he will continue to acknowledge your presence with more eye-contact. Or might come over. You hesitate and wonder if you should visibly do the same.
This is an odd dilemma. Maybe you don’t want to say something; maybe you expect the other person to come up and say ‘hey’ to you instead. Maybe this person is thinking the same thing! If no one says a word and you part, will you feel a bit offended or put-out that that person did not say ‘hey’? Is this communal nod of assent mandatory (even nonverbal), at least to make the whole encounter whole and positive? Does shyness play a major factor in this? Will this person remember me?
I’ve had this happen (right now being one of them), and I have come to expect the other party NOT to recognize me in the end. This has vaguely touched a nerve. I remember people for some reason. And I think I do more so than others. The image imprints like a stamp on an envelope. My brain soaks in the image; perhaps it has to do with me being more of a visual learner than auditory or syntactical.
The conundrum will never wane. I’m still waiting for another smirk or something. In the same manner, I’m playing as if I haven’t recongized the other person as well. A war of who wil noticeably state “I know you.” It’ll continue until someone gives in or someone leaves.